Let’s talk about 3 sneaky ways that fear blocks you from your life purpose every single day.

The first one is something that we usually call:

Laziness

And it looks like this: I’m going to get up an hour earlier tomorrow morning and write my book or work on my business or go and do some exercise or whatever it is for you that would be meaningful and relate to your life purpose.
And yet the next morning when the alarm goes off, you’re still in bed because maybe you didn’t get enough sleep or it’s too cold or you can’t be bothered or it’s really comfortable. Whatever the excuse, we put it down as laziness, but it’s actually fear trying to keep us in the familiar and the comfortable so that we don’t go outside that little comfort zone and do something that might be scary or dangerous.

So fear often shows up as laziness and it happens at the other end of the day as well, where you promise yourself that you’ll turn off the TV and go and do that meaningful thing but you’re still got your butt glued to the lounge at ten o’clock that night and all of a sudden, it’s time to go to bed and another day has finished.
Laziness is the first sneaky way that fear shows up and blocks you from living your life purpose and doing what’s meaningful.

The second way is something you’re probably very familiar with and that is:

Busyness

We have glorified being busy, put it up on a pedestal and it is time to knock it right down from that pedestal. Being busy is a way of saying “I’ve got so much going on, I can’t possibly go and do that thing that would light up my heart and make my life meaningful and important. So we do all these other things like the gardening, and the groceries and the washing up and washing the car, and taking on extra projects at work and saying yes to going out to social engagements when really our heart’s crying out for us to go and sit down and do whatever that thing is that we’re supposed to be doing that is our life purpose this time around.

Busyness is another label, another sneaky way that fear blocks us from doing what we’re supposed to be doing this lifetime.

The third way I call

Rigidity

What I mean by that is that you impose all these rules on yourself and it takes a lot of time to comply with those rules, like “I must exercise for one hour every single day” when you could probably get away with doing that three or four times a week and free up some time to work on your life purpose.
Maybe you have other rules about what you must do in your house:

“I must wash up every night, I must do this, I must do that”.

That rigidity prevents you from having the time to work on your life purpose and it’s really the opposite of fun, it’s the opposite of creativity and it’s very much living up in your head versus being down in your heart which is where all the life purpose stuff is.
So all these rules and rigidity keep you stuck up here doing what you think you should - your self-imposed rules - instead of being down in your heart and doing what your soul wants to do, the actual real important work of your life: your life purpose.

So there you have three sneaky ways that fear blocks you from living your life purpose:

Laziness

Busyness

Rigidity

Have a look at your own life and see how these three things show up for you and then make some little tweaks. Let yourself loosen up a little bit and do things differently to free up some time, space and energy to work on your life purpose.

The world needs whatever that is for you.

Katie Ryan
Courage & Intuition Specialist
0407 257 076
www.katieryan.com.au

Effective networking for business women 
who are ready to shine
www.presenceandpurpose.com.au

My birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks and it’s  got me thinking about all the usual birthday questions like:
“What presents will I ask for?”
“Where will we go out for dinner?”
“Will I ever be ready to have kids?”

The simple stuff.

But it’s also got me thinking back to last year’s birthday where I thought it would be a great idea to go to a nearby adventure park, the kind that has the platforms up in the trees and they’re joined together by flying foxes and rope ladders and all kinds of fun things like that.
So hubby and I went off to this mid-morning and we started out on one of the more simple courses, all done up in the safety harness after the lessons on how you have to “hook on” and “hook off” and make sure you’re always connected so you don’t fall to the ground and die right? Fun!

You have to climb up a ladder to the first platform in the tree and I am shaking so much I feel like I’m completely weak and all the energy has just drained out of me but I’m also determined so up that ladder I go.
I get to the first platform and the first flying fox so I hook on my wheel on the rope and I’ve got to push myself off the platform out into thin air. Sounds pretty simple but it was freaking scary! I made myself do it because we’d only just got there and there was no way I was going to chicken out and go home.

So we did it and each obstacle got, not easier, you just got a little bit used to it. We went through the first course and then the second course and then I was a bit tired and we cleverly hadn’t taken anything to eat or drink with us so we decided we’d just do the third course and then we’d go home.
So we get halfway through the third one and there’s more people on the course so we’re having to wait for longer as well so it’s taking much longer. Then we get to one really really difficult connection between the trees where there were stirrups hanging on ropes. I was knackered and I really couldn’t do it but I tried.

And I fell.
By falling I mean literally my legs gave way and my arms couldn’t catch me and I was caught by the security ropes hooked onto the main rope. So of course you don’t fall very far but there was that moment where I remember looking at the ground and thinking “Am I going to hit that?”

And I was just terrified. I let out a little scream when I got caught by the safety harness and I remember looking up at my husband and I was kind of cranky about all this trauma I was going through and I remember saying to him
 

“They don’t teach you how to fall!”
In the safety briefing at the start, they don’t teach you how to fall. He just gave me this look that was so meaningful and I heard what I just said: they don’t teach you how to fall.

No one teaches you how to fall, how to stuff up or how to fall off the high ropes course, you just learn that as you go. Then you have to learn how to pick yourself back up and hopefully you’re lucky enough to have someone like my husband who helped haul me across to the next tree platform and made sure I got off safely.

I remember that moment when I fell and I was terrified and then I was relieved and then I was embarrassed. It was a great way to spend my birthday!
I came home and got straight into the bath because my body was aching and stayed in the bath - I kid you not - crying and eating an entire block of chocolate because it was all I was capable of, I was so traumatised.

I made the decision there would be no more adventurous things on my birthday. The most adventurous I’m getting is going to a day spa next year! So if I start talking about wanting to go horse riding or something crazy just remind me of the little adventure from last year and we’ll see if I still want to get out of my comfort zone on my birthday.

You don’t need to know how to fall, you just need to know that you’re going to be able to get back up again afterwards. There’s always someone to help you, even if that someone is you.

So keep that in mind next time you head outside your comfort zone and do something adventurous.

You don’t need to know how to fall, you just need to know that you’ll be able to get back up.

And you will.

Katie Ryan

Courage & Intuition Specialist
0407 257 076
www.katieryan.com.au

Effective networking for business women
 who are ready to shine
www.presenceandpurpose.com.au

This is what happens when your energy system is in balance.

• You feel optimistic
• you can think clearly
• make good decisions
• your physical symptoms diminish  
• your health improves.

However, these days, so many people feel unfocused in their lives, unsatisfied with their work, and unfulfilled in their relationships and their achievements.   

People worry about jobs, security, health, the economy, the changing climate, the general sense of unease about saftey since terrorism.

The stress of all this seems to be a modern disease.

“Today our minds, our emotions, our relationships and our bodies are out of kilter” Greg Braden.

What can you do about all this?

• You can learn that balance in life is essential.
• You can learn to overcome stress, take better care of yourself and make your health and happiness a priority.
• You can learn to tune into your intuition to create a life that serves your highest good.
• You can make life easier.
• You can learn how to create the life you are wanting.

When I hear people say ‘there has to be more than this’, I can definitely affirm….THERE IS!

Take Control!

Start by understaning that the only thing you can control when it comes to all those worries is yourself and your attitude.

Then make a promise to yourself  to explore all the different ways you can create balance in your life and be kind to yourself and then make that a priority.

You cannot give to others if your cup is half empty and you cannot be there for others without first being there for yourself.

For when your life comes into balance, you can then become a contributor to everyone else and that leads to happiness, health and longevity.